Emotions are high right now and with good reason. The changes in our world we are all witnessing during this pandemic are a lot to handle. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying life right now is easy. I find myself anxious at times and thinking into the future that I have absolutely no control over.
How do you get to a calmer more peaceful state? The key is being able to manage your emotions.
Calm is not to be void of any emotion. It is about witnessing emotion and allowing for love and grace into your world.
Let me tell you, I have been the woman that has resisted her feelings and emotions for years. I had to learn how to express emotion healthily and have emotions be a part of my life.
Being able to manage your emotions is an so essential skill and yet it is not taught to us. Like myself, many of us enter adulthood with this unknowingness of how to handle our emotions. So, when something uncertain appears like COVID-19 many of us freak out, worry, and find ourselves in total mental chaos.
Let me tell you a little secret, you can handle your emotions. You don’t have to feel overwhelmed, chaotic, and worrisome. When I learned that I can control my emotions my world turned right side up. I had much more control over my emotions than I had ever thought and less heaviness that bogged my life down.
One of my all-time favorite quotes, “What you resist persists.” – Rumi
Resisting feelings feels out of control. The more you keep those negative emotions stuffed inside or continuing having them swirl around in your head the longer they’ll cause imbalance for you. It is so important for us to understand our emotional life to live a healthier quality of life.
One of the things I teach women is how to manage their emotions so they can live a life they most desire. Living a better quality of life doesn’t mean you are constantly happy, smiling, and overjoyed. It is to live in the fullness of the total life experience.
The goal is to live the experience of all of life, it’s grey days and sunny days, the calm with the anxiety, the despair with joy and contentment. That is the human experience. It is all about how we handle our emotions.
We can choose to do it with a higher intention or react with fear. Let’s face it, life always seems to throw us a curveball. Our human experience is to find beauty and balance in that curveball and to learn how to be emotionally healthy and experience all of life.
Here’s the key. Your feelings are created by the thoughts in your mind, nothing else.
At one time I blamed everyone or everything around me for my feelings. I am not suggesting you do that. Your emotions drive everything you do. Negative emotions can cause you to act in undesirable ways. Some of you may be finding comfort in eating or drinking especially now during these times.
It is so easy to blame something external for your feelings, but that is not how it works. Your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings cause an action. You can change your feelings and behavior by examining your thoughts.
So, how do we find more calm in this COVID challenge?
- Stop resisting your feelings and own them.
- Feel these feelings on purpose. Allow them to flow through you. Emotion is just vibrational energy. Sit with them. Don’t be afraid of them. Befriend them.
- Label the emotion. You might say, “Hello fear….anxiety….anger.” Let them know they are present.
- Name that emotion you are feeling. Terrified, Anger, Helpless, Fearful, Peaceful, etc.
- Choose to feel that emotion completely and fully. Own the worrisome feeling so all of your emotions will surface.
- Own the feeling. If you don’t own it you can’t change it.
- Say to yourself, “I am choosing to feel this (put your emotion here) emotion.”
- Practice how this emotion feels in your body. Ask yourself, “What is my body feeling right now?” You can use your body as a tool to help you collect data about how you are really feeling.
Get really good at feeling your feelings. Witness what is happening now in the present. Acknowledging your feeling even if they are bad, it is useful. That’s the catalyst for change. You must witness your feelings, whatever they are to get to the calm more peaceful state you desire.
Practice the steps above to help you calm your mind and rebalance your life.
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I am Lisa Jollimois. I am a personal development coach for women who want to transform their lives. If you need more support getting through this current crisis, contact me. Or if you need support naturally maintaining your weight, rewriting your story, exploring new possibilities for an empty nest, or feeling stuck. I can help act as a guide to get your life into action.
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