Nov 11, 2019 | Growth Mindset, Personal Development
“The voice of beauty speaks softly; it creeps only into the most fully awakened souls.” – Nietzsche
It’s November, the time where I start thinking about where I have been, what I have accomplished over the last year, and where I am heading into the new year.
I am super excited because I have a lot of amazing things planned for the new year. The next year will be one of transition mainly because my youngest son will be graduating from high school.
Earlier in the day I spoke on the phone with my friend. She seems to be in the same mode. She’s thinking about her year, planning for the next with some exciting things on the agenda.
Somehow we entered a conversation about dating, charm, and power. We chatted about the moves men make to capture the attention of women. How, some puff up their chests, use their bravado and charm to lure women into relationships. Oh, don’t get me wrong, women do this as well.
The conversation led to how unhealthy relationships that can be controlling, dominant, threatening, forceful, and violent. We agreed that these tactics of intimidation and control are found to be driven by the ego to mask fear,and insecurity and eventually prove themselves as weak and foolish.
I tend to think that society rarely teaches how to have healthy and peaceful relationships, ones of which cooperation, respect, negotiation, compromise, righteous, and ethical principles are at the forefront. These basic principles are the solutions that satisfy both points of view in a relationship and prove to win over any other option.
This is soft power or I like to think of it as the velvet glove in relationships. This type relating is very powerful. The term soft power is the ability to shape the preferences of another through appeal and attraction minus exerting pressure or force. The terms soft power vs hard power was coined by Joseph Nye, in 1990 when the term was originally used and intended by international affairs analysts to describe a style of power.
Despite the original intent, there is definitely a place for soft power in personal relationships. Some might think you are weak, vulnerability, or a pushover to use this; it may seem like the least powerful option to resolution. The voice that says that is the ego that has been groomed from birth. The only power involved is the power we all hold within, the power of transformational LOVE.
Is there a relationship in your life that needs fine-tuning, a change of pace? You have more power than you think.
I am Lisa Jollimois, mother of four who loves supporting women 40 plus who are looking for a more fulfilling life. I work with women who are looking for more out of life, who want to uncover themselves, take the next step, rewrite their story, be more vulnerable, and learn how to live happier, healthier, confident and radiant.
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Oct 27, 2019 | Growth Mindset, Personal Development
“It takes courage to grow up and be truly who you are.” – E E Cummings
It’s the time of year that we go through our closets to muster up a funky costume or head to the local store to gather up a scary costume for a night out.
There’s nothing more fun than dressing up with some outrageous look, a personality to match and taking on the town.
Beyond Halloween, many of us hide behind masks and wear costumes everyday. I wore one years ago, I sported all white, a mask, protective glasses, and purple gloves as a dental hygienist. That was just one costume…
Feeling stuck and unfulfilled in my dental cubical, one day I asked myself, “Lisa, what do you really want to do with your life?:
I challenged myself to take the steps to go back to college as a young mother to head in a different direction, a new career, a different path…. I discovered that it was not always about doing something different or having a new fulfilling career. It was about being who I wanted to be as a woman and the impact I made on those around me.
Every day I challenge myself to live in a heart-centered place to come from love, a place of beauty, balance, and inspiration.
Today, I challenge you to think not so much as what you want to do, but who you want to be in the world…to show up in this world minus the costume.
You may want to be a mother who is available to her children. Or a woman who can cook healthy, delicious dishes, or a woman who can live in love. The possibilities are endless and the choice is yours!
Try on your new way of being and see how it makes you feel. Notice how others are responding to the new you. I would love to hear.
I am Lisa Jollimois, a personal development coach who works with women 40+ who are seeking a change in their life. Women who are at crossroads, feel stuck or not sure about the next step. I help women get to the other side of whatever they are feeling and support them to be Healthier, Happier, Confident, and Radiant.
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Oct 17, 2019 | Personal Development, Special Needs
Embracing our own unique gifts honors who we are as human beings.
We’ve all worn masks. I think I’ve worn the one with the gold and red ribbon in the center of the picture.
There have been times in my life where I have wondered what the heck am I gonna do next. That’s been my time of being a part of the masquerade.
Have you ever been in the place where you wonder what the next step is?
Trust me, I’ve been there…
It is those times when you have felt paralyzed and have thought there has to be more to life, but you find it difficult to know what direction to take. Maybe you’ve seen yourself fail or the unexpected has happened that flips your world upside down.
Let me tell you more about one of those world-rocking times… Seventeen years ago my fourth child was born with Down Syndrome.
I can remember standing in my living room, feeling alone and being afraid. I knew nothing about Trisomy 21, children who were born with an extra chromosome on the 21st pair or Down Syndrome.
Sure, It was hard those first few months after Patrick was born. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t hard having Patrick. I loved and treated him like my other children… as a capable human being despite some of the things I had read or was told about Trisomy 21. The difficulty was seeing pitied faces and hearing the limiting beliefs people had of Down Syndrome.
The great thing was we often proved those beliefs wrong. I learned fast that conscious awareness was the best way to grow this child, any child and listening to those beliefs wasn’t worth a dime.
I was told Patrick couldn’t nurse. With perseverance, commitment, and support Patrick eventually latched on and nursed exclusively. There were many of those moments. It became clear to me that Patrick was here in his perfect form, the one that God intended for him…And what a gift!
This month is National Down Syndrome Awareness month. Patrick is 17 years old. Today, I stand in my living room with a full heart and eyes that see through a different lens. I count the many gifts he has brought to me. A trait that comes to mind as our Halloween nears is that Patrick is Patrick. He doesn’t wear a mask, or hide himself. He is who he is wholeheartedly. He doesn’t think twice about who he is or what others think of him.
So many of us put on that mask and present ourselves the way we want to be seen, the way we think society expects us to be. With that, we rob ourselves of our authenticity, our true self, our gifts and talents. We prevent ourselves from making genuine connections that enrich our lives.
We can either wear the mask that hides us or remove it all together to expose our real self. It is clear that one path leads you to the land of pretend and disconnection, the other towards a beautiful life experience full of love, connectedness and joy.
The good thing is that we all have a choice here.
So, the next time when you feel the constriction of wondering what people are thinking… pull off the mask and be you. Take the risk. I know now that when people show up and be vulnerable it not only changes the lives of those around them, but it has the ability to ripple and change the world.
I am Lisa Jollimois, mother of four who loves supporting women 40 plus who are looking for a more fulfilling life. I work with women who want to take the mask off, uncover themselves, take the next step, rewrite their story, be more vulnerable, and learn how to live happier, healthier, confident and radiant.
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Sep 25, 2019 | Personal Development
“The secret to happiness is freedom…And the secret to freedom is courage.” -Thucydides
Sometimes life throws punches. Sometimes they feel small and sometimes they feel really big. Hopefully we use those challenges as guideposts and opportunities to question, think, learn, and grow.
“Grow Through What You Go Through”. That has been a rhyme, a mantra that I like to keep handy. It’s a reminder that even when times feel difficult and less than friendly, there is grace.
I encourage you to take advantage of these times of challenge even though they feel hard and scary most of the time. Sure, it is easier to hide out, blame the other person or people involved or rag on the situation, but that doesn’t get you anywhere except in a place fear, frustration, and anger.
In these times of challenge, I have an old-fashioned talk with myself and say, “Okay Lisa, I know this feels uncomfortable. How courageous are you going to be today?” Seriously, it is hard for me to get out of my comfort zone and take risks. But, I know when I feel discomfort inside, I’m feeling it for a reason. I know I’ll feel better when I challenge myself to move through whatever it is with courage, compassion, and love.
Just the other day I had to contact a friend to discuss a sensitive issue. I had to find the courage to bring up my concerns in a loving non-threatening way. Once I communicated my concerns and wants, and needs I felt better. Even though it was scary for me to initiate the dialogue, my courage in doing so made me feel much better. The burden I once felt, was lighter.
The advice I give myself is… feel the pain, find the courage, seek freedom and grow. When you act appropriately with ease and elegance you will see the beauty in the gift of grace.
So, move past your fear. Find the courage. Be healthier, happier, confident, and radiant!
I use my own life experience as a reference along with training to support women 40 plus who are going through a major life change and are having a difficult time knowing what steps to take next.
If you or someone you know are facing life’s challenges, and need support, I can provide a safe space and help. Please share my name or email me at lisa@lisajollimois.com.
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Sep 12, 2019 | Personal Development
“Laughter gives us distance. It allows us to step back from an event, deal with it and then move on.” Bob Newhart
Have you ever planned an event and had something major go wrong?
Let me tell you about last weekend…
A girl friend and I had made plans to go on a weekend camping getaway. We packed the camping gear, food, provisions, our bikes, and kids, hoping for a fabulous weekend in Acadia National Forest in northern Maine.
Sure, I’ll admit we were watching the path of hurricane Dorian up until we decided to get in the car and drive north. Our plan was to be part of an outing group with our kids. Maine Adaptive, the group we had planned to meet up with was still on board with their expedition, so we were off.
It is not often that tropical hurricanes make it up the coast of Maine. We were sure the storm would go out to sea and the weekend would be glorious.
Ha ha ha… Yes it was a weekend of unpredictability and adapting. Plans ended up being very different than what we expected. Sometimes the only thing you can do is laugh.
We arrived late, later than planned because it started to rain. We arrived at our site put up the tents, threw in the sleeping bags, pillows, and flashlights. Settled in for the night when my friend received a weather alert for the coastal Bar Harbor area…
TROPICAL WEATHER ALERT – LEVEL 1 HURRICANE. The strongest winds and rain where scheduled to be between Bar Harbor and Nova Scotia.
That’s where we were! I don’t think I had a wink of sleep that night. The wind was howling. The rain was torrential. By the crack of dawn the tarp over our tents had blown off and water had begun to find its way in our tents. We were wet.
So much for the baked bananas and oatmeal over the fire. We got up. Threw everything in the trunk and headed out to a local restaurant to warm our bodies, drink some coffee, hot chocolate, and be catered to with the daily breakfast special.
All was good. After a lengthy breakfast, we found respite at the forest lodge. There we sat fireside. We dried our buttocks that were damp through our pants, dried our shoes, and coats until we felt warm.
Our bike trip had been canceled for Saturday and our plans changed. Instead of a scenic bike trip through Acadia, we found ourselves with many others in the local laundromat drying our belongings.
We laughed and laughed as we saw all the grim faces waiting for their dryers to be done.
Sometimes the best thing to do is laugh. So we laughed….It truly does break the tension, gives you a chance to take a breather, and regroup.
So we looked at each other with tired eyes, and heads ready to nod off and said, “We need a good sleep. Let’s try to find a hotel room for tonight.”
We looked and looked, called and called for a room. There were no vacancies. We laughed, and laughed more and thought there has to be a place for us. We totally trusted we would find the perfect place for the two of us and our kids.
Just east of vacation central there was a room with a kitchenette, a hot shower, swimming pool, and a Keurig. We felt so grateful and couldn’t wait to hit the hay after we cooked up our fun food, and banana boats for dessert.
We laughed and laughed, and cracked a few jokes about the series of weekend events.
Sunday morning the sun appeared. Our kids had opportunities to ride their bikes and kayak with Maine Adaptive. In the end, we had a wonderful time. It was a weekend we’ll never forget.
Here are a few things that can help you when things don’t go as planned.
- Be flexible, Sometimes the most most memorable times are when plans change. Go with the flow. Don’t plan. Go step by step being totally flexible.
- Find humor in things that are not commonly funny. My friend was so good at this. She kept me in stitches.
- Don’t let your thinking hold you back from having a great time. It’s your thinking that’ll cause you to give up, drive home, and end the adventure. Think about how you can pick the pieces up and have a good time right at that moment.
- Opportunities are often disguised as problems. Look at the sudden changes in plans as opportunities to be creative.
- Take on a positive approach to challenges. You can choose to make it a memorable or not.
I would love to hear about any events, weekend plans, or anything else that didn’t turnout the way you had planned.
Shoot me an email and tell me your story. Did you learn anything?
I am Lisa Jollimois. I work specifically with women 40 plus who are interested in being their best selves. I help women uncover limiting beliefs that open up a world of opportunity to become Healthier, Happier, Confident, Radiant.
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Aug 27, 2019 | Personal Development
These days I seem to hear, “I am so overwhelmed, I have too much on my to-do list,” more often than not. This post is for all my friends and clients who have ever felt overwhelmed.
I recently received a call from a friend who was driving back to New Hampshire from a two week hiking trip in the Adirondacks. She said, “Lisa, I feel so overwhelmed. I have so much to do when I get back home. There is so much on my to-do list.”
I asked her about her vacation and tried to get her to realize she was still on it. She still had quite a long drive home. I encouraged her to crank the radio, sing to the tunes to help not let her mind spin things out of control.
I said to her, “Be here now, girl. In the car, with your mind on the road and not on that to-do list.”
Have you ever felt like my friend?
The hear the word overwhelm or versions of it all the time. Whether I am with friends, family, or clients, overwhelm pops up in conversation. “I am so busy. I don’t have enough time. I’ll never get it all done. I am so overwhelmed.” It’s there.
Overwhelm causes an excess of anxiety, which leads to more overwhelm resulting in less often productivity. I have seen overwhelm cause anxiety that has wiped people out to a point where they can’t function.
I’ve had my battles with overwhelm too. Those excessive and heighten feelings of “there’s not enough time and how am I going to do it all” tend to cripple me to the point of exhaustion. That’s not productive. I imagine some of you can relate.
Every so often when I feel that tingle of overwhelm creeping up on me. I have to stop myself, regroup and notice the thoughts I am thinking. Similar to my friend driving home from vacation, I find my mind not where it needs to be…in the now. Instead, it’s usually somewhere in the future.
Overwhelm takes away. It doesn’t add any value to your life. Some of you may question this and make the point that the stress you put yourself through may help you get things done. Even though you may have a level of productivity, your end result is the feeling of overwhelm. That certainly isn’t a way to be kind to your body and it shows.
Here’s the key. The thoughts you are thinking are leading to the overwhelm. It is not your to-do lists or anything external. Overwhelm is created in your head.
The bottom line, overwhelm is not a necessary evil to get things done, or lead you down the path of success. Overwhelm prevents all that is most beautiful in you from showing. It zaps your creativity, increases your stress hormones that love to make you heavier, tire you physically, and could cause your to wear a scowl on your face.
“Lisa, my to-do list is a mile long”…We all have those lists. The goal is productivity with ease and grace. If you are running rapid with overwhelm, you’ll never see the beauty that lies inside of you.
Today, I rarely experience overwhelm. My brain has learned to make new connections that now alert me rather than make me a victim of this paralyzing anxiety…overwhelm.
Here are 5 tips that have helped me oppose overwhelm.
1. Shift Your Mindset. Once you recognize that it is your mind creating the overwhelm and not the lack of time or your long to-do list, your overwhelm naturally reduces. Embrace the idea… “There is no rush.”
2. Use Mindful Language. Many of us operate under the “have to, need to, and should do it all” mentality. Whereas the reality is that you don’t “have to” do anything. You absolutely have a choice as to what you do daily.
I like to have my clients flip their language to a less stress bearing word. Since everything in your life is a choice, you can choose gentler words such as “I get to” or “I have the opportunity to” do whatever it is on your list. That simple shift in language feels very different than…”Oh my gosh, I have to do this now.”
Experiment with using these simple language shifts and see how they work for you.
3. Prioritize. Do the most important things first. Yes, I live in the real world and realize some things take precedence over others.
This was one of the reminders to my friend who was coming back from her vacation. She made it clear to me she had some pressing things on her list. Don’t agonize over all things on the list.
Do what is essential first. There is no rush.
4. Be Here Now. When you are consumed with the “to-do” list, the what and how you are going to get it all done you are missing what is here in the present. Your projection into the future envisioning a catastrophe if things don’t get done is a waste of your precious energy.
For my friend, it was for her safety. She was tired from the long drive and I wanted her to be safe on the road. The most important thing for her was being present in the car at that moment and not projecting into the future about all the things on her list.
5. Self Care. This is so important and is often never makes “the list.” When you make a conscious effort to take care of yourself by getting the rest, exercise, and self love overwhelm is less likely to creep into your head space.
A form of self love can simply be noticing how you are feeling at a given moment, then noticing how your body feels when you experience overwhelm. Notice what triggers your body and take action to get back into balance.
Try these tips. I would love to hear if they work for you. If you need more support with managing your overwhelm, give me a call. I have more tips and tricks that’ll help you shine your brightest.
Let’s get you out of overwhelm…
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Aug 19, 2019 | Personal Development
“You are essentially who you create yourself to be and all that occurs in your life is the result of your own making.” – Stephen Richards
Many of you have reached out to ask me more about coaching, what it is, how it is different from therapy, and my personal philosophy. I would like to take a moment and share with you so you’ll have a greater understanding of what I do.
Coaching is not me telling you how to live your life, what to do and how to do it. As a coach, I act as a facilitator to help you get to a desired goal to improve the quality of your life.
Often people will come to me if they are challenged by a life circumstance. It could be a divorce, experiencing an empty nest, weight loss challenges, interpersonal relational issues, feel unfulfilled or have the desire to do the work to be a healthier, more vibrant person.
Sometimes life changes unexpectedly and the support of a coach can help you get into action and create a new path quicker than if you were to move through the catastrophic event by yourself.
My mentor Martha Beck describes coaches as “personal trainers for your soul”. They help you access and plot a course that is right for you.
I may ask you to dig deep to uncover the thoughts and beliefs that are holding you back. We will explore how your thoughts impact how you feel and how feelings and emotions drive your actions in your life. You will find clarity and be able to move forward with action towards your desired outcome. You will learn to react less to circumstances in your life, gain freedom from places that are stuck, and learn to become the creator of your new life.
I often get the question, how is coaching different from therapy?
A therapist supports people who are not well become mentally healthy, whereas a life coach works with people who are mentally healthy to help them achieve their full potential and their best life. A life coach is present and future-focused to help you move forward to the desired outcome, rather than analyzing the hows and whys of your life.
Most life coaches specialize in a couple of areas of coaching. Often a coach will bring in relevant life experience as a specialization. I love working with women who want to live healthier, happier, with more ease and radiance. When I work with a woman we look at what is holding them back from getting to their desired outcome.
Many of you who have had these questions know I have experienced various challenges in my life. Through those unique challenges, I have come to the other side, more confident, and happier than ever. Now it is my time to give back to those who want to become a better version of themselves, or who need a listening ear to begin their journey. I provide a safe space for you to unfold and grow to a new, more radiant you.
I hope this explanation helps those of you who have asked me specifically to clarify.
When you decide to work with me, the sessions are confidential and are designed based on your needs. I meet you where you are. Together we create so you will be able to make decisions that will improve your confidence, health and happiness, and quality of your life.
I am able to coach you over the phone in the comfort of your own home or in person. I am able to work with women in the United States and worldwide.
I offer a free 20-minute discovery call with no obligation. My coaching packages are designed for you to maximize the work you do with me. I offer one-on-one coaching for three and six-month packages. These packages can be renewed for the woman to develop a long-term relationship.
It is my honor to serve you.
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Aug 13, 2019 | Personal Development
This week I discovered my website had a bug. This was after I thought all my website stuff was running smoothly. Recently, I noticed pictures missing and random bars popping up where they should not be. Clearly something was needing some attention.
Hmmm….And technology is not something I enjoy.
It was at that moment I had the choice to either scream and kick with frustration or choose the higher road of less reactivity.
I choose the latter. I sat down at that moment and felt all the emotions of having a less than perfect website. Then I just laughed. I trusted these glitches are little reminders of how I can practice living a better life, one of ease, grace, play, and femininity. I trusted I am exactly where I am supposed to be in this moment and that the higher powers that be have my back.
When the storm in my head was relieved by laughter, the calm was able to move in and I was able to take action towards a resolution.
I would like to introduce you to a quote by Jaggi Vasudev.” If you learn to ride the storm, the storm is not a problem anymore.”
When was the last time you felt you were in a storm? How did you react?
Do you stuff it down?
Do you react negatively?
Do you dwell on it?
Or maybe you go into isolation?
Or cried?
I want you to take a moment and think about how you handle these less than pretty moments.
As women, we have been taught that it is bad to be emotional. That we should be happy and cheerful all the time, be in control, hide those emotions that are perceived bad because they won’t serve us, and that sitting in the storm is counterproductive.
That emotional part of us as women is so essential to our being. As a culture of women we have learned to shut down our feelings and pretend things are fine.
Let me give you an example… Have you ever been to the grocery and run into someone you have not seen in a while? They ask you how you have been and you respond, “Oh, fine!” Often the reality at that moment is quite different. We have conditioned ourselves to not be true to ourselves.
On a deep level, we have been conditioned to not trust the feminine in us. That part of us that has been shut off and down has a deep desire to be expressed. This disconnect causes deep longing.
Are you able to recognize any deep desires or longings?
Often women find that beyond material things and external desires what they desire most is being truly authentic to themselves, living fully in the moment, and connected.
Let’s do a little recap.
Let’s think about how you answered the previous question about how you would react in a storm.
Now, if you were to do some personal upgrades that will lead you closer to the woman you want to be, what would those upgrades look like?
Make a list of 5 things you would do differently.
I would love to hear your thoughts. Feel free to comment below. Or if you are interested in exploring more contact me for a free no-obligation personal discovery call.
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Jul 30, 2019 | Healthy Eating, Money Matters, Personal Development
This last week a single $168 million Mega Millions jackpot was sold in my hometown of Exeter.
The town has been buzzing with wonder as to who the winner is. As of yet, the winner has been unidentified.
Some residents have even suggested ideas on how some of the money should be spent.
First, the New Hampshire State lottery executive director, suggests consulting with an attorney and getting a financial planner who’s familiar with dealing with large sums of money is a good idea.
That seems like good advice.
In the past, some lottery winners have gone bankrupt with years of winning massive amounts of money. Why and how, you may ask? Managing money is something that has to be learned. These winners have never learned how to manage their money like a person who is wealthy who has a wealth minded mindset.
You may ask, “what does this have to do with ice cream?”
The choices you make impact your life.
They can either lead to a healthy relationship or an unhealthy relationship with food, money, and even friends.
Whether you choose to eat a little ice cream or splurge on the kitchen sink, spend megabucks money-wise, or burn through it wildly the choice is up to you.
So when summer comes around here in New Hampshire, sometimes ice cream calls me. Today was one of those days, I found my way to Just The Wright Place For Ice Cream…
I am being totally authentic here by revealing a periodic weakness of mine. We all have them. Yours could be drinking or eating sweets or overeating. These are all desires that often we feel like we can’t control.
I have heard clients say to me, “ I can’t have just a little. I have to eat the whole bag. ”, “The food is calling me to eat every last crumb.” , or “I can’t control myself.” These struggles are all so common and are an opportunity to look deeper at the root cause rather than just changing the behavior.
If you are not willing to look at the cause of the behavior that will always go back to thoughts you are having in your mind, the desired change in behavior will be difficult to break.
I finished my coffee ice cream with a glob of hot fudge sauce on top. That was a total treat for me. There was a moment of feeling satisfied. I knew I was done.
Instead of beating myself up, and scolding myself for the sundae, I said, “Lisa, what is it that you are really wanting here?” “What do you really need?” I gave myself a little coaching.
Is there something in your life that you have a deep desire for? Do you feel like it has control over you? Maybe it is eating, snacking, indulging in too much chocolate, spending too much time on social medial, or is it excessive spending?
When you begin to take a look at the thoughts behind your desires, you will notice your desire for that thing you are wanting grows less.
Don’t get me wrong. Desiring things can be wonderful when they are healthy for your life and life-giving. It is when you see yourself in a not-so-good pattern of desiring unhealthy things. That’s the problem.
Give yourself a break when you see yourself desiring that unhealthy and ask yourself, “What is it that I need right now?”
I will give you a hint. It will be always be something in your head, never anything physical.
As I drove back from the ice cream shop, I saw a signpost congratulating the Megabucks winner. I hope our local winner has the power to take a moment to think about his desires and dreams.
The last thing I would want is for him or she is to eat that big ice cream sundae and feel disgusted in the end.
My wish would be the winner would get the financial counsel to develop a healthy long-term financial plan. Money flows like water.
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I would love to hear from you. What is something you desire that leans toward the unhealthy?
Jul 22, 2019 | Lifestyle, Making life look easy, Staycation
Mokokoma Mokhonoana said, “It is rest, not a vacation, that is a biological need.”
I have to say, sometimes the simplest things are the best.
For me, sometimes the break from the daily routine is all I need to feel that sense of rest and renewal. This week is a good time for a mini staycation.
Don’t get me wrong I love traveling, taking a vacation to someplace I have never been, or revisiting a favorite destination, but there is something carefree about not having to pack or have a vacation must-do and must-see list on the agenda.
Really, it is rest that my body needs.
All batteries need to charge. I know if my car battery is running low, it dies.
So, I opted in for a staycation to recharge my battery, do things around my house that would elevate the quality of my life, relax and play, relax and play a little more than usual.
What makes a staycation great?
First, setting clear intentions about how you want to feel at the end of your time at home.
Then, choosing to do only those things that help you achieve that feeling.
Tips that will make your staycation fun and more fabulous:
1. Let people know your on a vacation.
2. Hire someone to clean your house before your staycation.
3. Change up your normal routine. Changing up the tech routine-perhaps unplugging. Consider unplugging from any calls, answering emails, or being in touch with what is typical for you. Otherwise your time at home may not give you your desired results.
4. Tackle a small house project can be rewarding especially if it seems hard to fit into your standard routine.
5. Say good-bye to the news.
6. Be out in nature everyday.
7. Get your body moving. I’m not talking about burning yourself out by running a marathon. Enjoy the day by taking a walk, hike, or go for a swim.
8. Visiting a local attraction that you may have wanted to do, but haven’t.
9. Lunch date with a friend.
10. Dressing to the nines, eating out, and enjoying a glass of wine or non- alcoholic spritzer with a friend.
11. Buy some food and drinks that are not part of your ordinary weekly routine. A favorite of mine is fresh seasonal fruit with champagne on ice to celebrate.
12. Relax, relax. Personally there is nothing better than an afternoon in a hammock with a glass of fresh squeezed orange juice over ice.
Whether you choose a staycation or vacation, state of mind is what matters in the end. Be clear on your intentions. Don’t get caught up in the should dos. Create something that works for you and the time you have to recharge.
Cheers to you all…rest a little and play a little. It does wonders.
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