May 10, 2020 | Personal Development
Feel whatever is present for you. Today is Mother’s Day. I am separated from all of my children except for my 17-year-old. I have one in California, one in Chicago, and one in Massachusetts, and Pat and I are nestled right on the seacoast of New Hampshire. This is the first year I have ever felt the separation, the distance and the quiet like my house feels today. This morning I Facetimed my 94-year-old mother. Thank goodness for technology during COVID -19: I don’t know when I will see her next. These changes are unsettling and confusing especially to my mother who is grateful and amazed that she can see me through a telephone. There is aloneness.
Sometimes it is really scary to feel those emotions, the loneliness, the fear, the confusion. When these emotions surface it is good to know that all of what you are feeling doesn’t define who you are as a human being. These emotions are just part of the human experience of energy moving through you.
Energy moves, so this too will pass. I encourage you to be with the emotion and let it flow through you. It’s all okay, Emotions are not bad. They feel worse when we don’t acknowledge them. If you have resistance to them and pretend they are not there, that causes us the most pain.
What are you feeling today? How was your day? Allow those feelings to emerge.
Be a kind witness to your emotions and invite them into your life. Fighting them or pretending they are not present makes it hard. There is no hurry. Give yourself time to be with yourself and the emotion. Choose to feel the emotion. Remember, feelings are created by thoughts not external circumstances.
What creates our suffering?
Our thinking creates our suffering. It is easy to believe that we feel the way we do because of the circumstances in the world. For instance, if my children all lived close to me I would have the most fabulous Mother’s Day or if my children would behave differently I would feel better. No, my friends, that is not the way it works. Sometimes we throw ourselves into the suffering arena unnecessarily because of our thinking.
Some people believe if COVID -19 were to go away we would all feel better, not true. We would still all have to learn how to handle our feelings around whatever might rock our boat the next. Life is meant to be a series of contrasts and challenges. During these challenging times, our minds like to play games with us because we most often so desperately want to feel better. So, we resort to blaming the world as the cause of our problems. That is why we can find ourselves trying to control situations and micromanage things. Our thoughts are always creating how we feel. Your thoughts are the one thing you can control. It is a practice.
I have an acquaintance who loves to live in drama. The sad thing is that she is so accustomed to living this way she doesn’t even see the mental frenzy she creates in her world. She comes to mind because I want to bring to your attention the fact that many of us live in a state of being and that our stories are not always true.
Much like this acquaintance many of us catastrophize, we create a situation that we think is true, but in reality, it is not. It is important to understand the actual facts around a given situation have no resistance or force against us. The circumstance that we have is that there is a virus called COVID -19. This is just a circumstance that is zone neutral. It is our thinking that creates the thoughts, that produce the emotions and the fear that we have around this virus.
It is important to note that we can’t control any given circumstance, but we can control our thoughts around the situation. We can choose how we want to feel.
What are some of the circumstances that are stressing you? What are your thoughts around those circumstances?
You can’t change circumstances, but you can choose the thoughts you think about the circumstances. Try to think thoughts that are not so painful. Choose more empowering thoughts little by little to change the story you hear.
Many of the stories we tell ourselves can evoke strong emotion. What are some of the stories you are telling yourself?
Lately I have been hearing a lot of stories about this virus. The reality is the virus is not so scary. There have been many viruses in the world. It is our thoughts and stories about the virus that have caused us to be so fearful. I am not underestimating the impact this virus has had on the world or the pain that some of you have suffered by having a loved one fall ill. I want to bring to your attention the choice you have during this time and the power you have is in your mind. By all means, I am not saying don’t be cautious.
Ask yourself. Does it serve you to be so fearful? Is that fear disabling you?
If you start taking a look at your thoughts you will begin to see some thoughts are waiting to be changed to produce better feelings and productive actions. You will begin to feel better and show up in ways that are more in line with your true self. It’s so easy especially now when circumstances are more traumatic than normal to get caught up in looping around and around in our thoughts. If you find yourself in this place, try to shift your thought pattern slightly. Because your thoughts create your feelings, which create your actions, which drive your outcome. If you do this you’ll find you give yourself a little bit of relief.
It is the small everyday steps that eventually lead to big changes. What if you started to change one thought, what would that do for you?
I like to refer to this as a kind of “cleaning of the mind”. And, what perfect time to check into seeing what our minds are thinking. Today, I spent some of that quiet time reorganizing closets, thinking about those little things that are important to me, and things that I treasure.
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I am Lisa Jollimois. I am a personal development coach for women who want to transform their lives. If you need more support getting through this current crisis, contact me. Or if you need support naturally maintaining your weight, rewriting your story, exploring new possibilities for an empty nest, or feeling stuck. I can help act as a guide to get your life into action.
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May 6, 2020 | Personal Development
Emotions are high right now and with good reason. The changes in our world we are all witnessing during this pandemic are a lot to handle. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying life right now is easy. I find myself anxious at times and thinking into the future that I have absolutely no control over.
How do you get to a calmer more peaceful state? The key is being able to manage your emotions.
Calm is not to be void of any emotion. It is about witnessing emotion and allowing for love and grace into your world.
Let me tell you, I have been the woman that has resisted her feelings and emotions for years. I had to learn how to express emotion healthily and have emotions be a part of my life.
Being able to manage your emotions is an so essential skill and yet it is not taught to us. Like myself, many of us enter adulthood with this unknowingness of how to handle our emotions. So, when something uncertain appears like COVID-19 many of us freak out, worry, and find ourselves in total mental chaos.
Let me tell you a little secret, you can handle your emotions. You don’t have to feel overwhelmed, chaotic, and worrisome. When I learned that I can control my emotions my world turned right side up. I had much more control over my emotions than I had ever thought and less heaviness that bogged my life down.
One of my all-time favorite quotes, “What you resist persists.” – Rumi
Resisting feelings feels out of control. The more you keep those negative emotions stuffed inside or continuing having them swirl around in your head the longer they’ll cause imbalance for you. It is so important for us to understand our emotional life to live a healthier quality of life.
One of the things I teach women is how to manage their emotions so they can live a life they most desire. Living a better quality of life doesn’t mean you are constantly happy, smiling, and overjoyed. It is to live in the fullness of the total life experience.
The goal is to live the experience of all of life, it’s grey days and sunny days, the calm with the anxiety, the despair with joy and contentment. That is the human experience. It is all about how we handle our emotions.
We can choose to do it with a higher intention or react with fear. Let’s face it, life always seems to throw us a curveball. Our human experience is to find beauty and balance in that curveball and to learn how to be emotionally healthy and experience all of life.
Here’s the key. Your feelings are created by the thoughts in your mind, nothing else.
At one time I blamed everyone or everything around me for my feelings. I am not suggesting you do that. Your emotions drive everything you do. Negative emotions can cause you to act in undesirable ways. Some of you may be finding comfort in eating or drinking especially now during these times.
It is so easy to blame something external for your feelings, but that is not how it works. Your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings cause an action. You can change your feelings and behavior by examining your thoughts.
So, how do we find more calm in this COVID challenge?
- Stop resisting your feelings and own them.
- Feel these feelings on purpose. Allow them to flow through you. Emotion is just vibrational energy. Sit with them. Don’t be afraid of them. Befriend them.
- Label the emotion. You might say, “Hello fear….anxiety….anger.” Let them know they are present.
- Name that emotion you are feeling. Terrified, Anger, Helpless, Fearful, Peaceful, etc.
- Choose to feel that emotion completely and fully. Own the worrisome feeling so all of your emotions will surface.
- Own the feeling. If you don’t own it you can’t change it.
- Say to yourself, “I am choosing to feel this (put your emotion here) emotion.”
- Practice how this emotion feels in your body. Ask yourself, “What is my body feeling right now?” You can use your body as a tool to help you collect data about how you are really feeling.
Get really good at feeling your feelings. Witness what is happening now in the present. Acknowledging your feeling even if they are bad, it is useful. That’s the catalyst for change. You must witness your feelings, whatever they are to get to the calm more peaceful state you desire.
Practice the steps above to help you calm your mind and rebalance your life.
Here are some useful reads for now. We all need a little something light and fun. I hope you enjoy these. xoxo
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I am Lisa Jollimois. I am a personal development coach for women who want to transform their lives. If you need more support getting through this current crisis, contact me. Or if you need support naturally maintaining your weight, rewriting your story, exploring new possibilities for an empty nest, or feeling stuck. I can help act as a guide to get your life into action.
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Apr 30, 2020 | Personal Development
“We live in perpetual creative response to what is present” – Martha Beck.
That is the way I have been showing up these days and it is the way to live under these unusual circumstances.
It is the end of April and we have all seen and felt the unfolding of this pandemic. We’ve felt a loss, have become accustomed to a new way of living and behaving. Some of us have felt tremendous loss and suffering.
My wish for you is that you will give yourself permission to feel, that you will be able to speak the truth about the part of you that is not as easy to talk about…the pain, the suffering, the loss. If you allow a safe space for you to feel your loss, cry, and sit with the pain and suffering. grief will appear. Grief so often will not make itself known until there is a safe space for it to be present.
According to psychiatrist Elisabeth Kuebler-Ross there is a reason for that. There is a 5 stage natural grieving process that one must go through to get to the other side. These 5 stages appear during periods of loss and suffering beginning with denial, then anger, bargaining, grief, and acceptance. Let me explain more how these stages have made themselves present during the COVID-19 threat.
You may recall early on how people were in denial ( stage 1) as they thought COVID-19 was not real and neglected to take the threat seriously. Once reality had set in and collectively we began to see our losses, our change of lifestyle, many of us had developed anger (stage 2).
We have experienced the stage of bargaining (stage 3) where we have agreed to the new limits and accepted the fact that there were orders to stay inside for a month or two. “I can do this.”
But then we are faced with the harsh reality that this virus is here. We see how it has radically changed things, a lot of things. We have to face the reality that this is bigger than we thought. We begin to feel depression and grief (stage 4) because we have to accept what has happened and face it.
Once you travel through those 4 stages, there is the final stage acceptance (stage5). This is where you decide, “Ok, this is here. How can I make the best of it? How can I make the most out of this time?”
Then there is the transformation where you will begin to find meaning in the painful experience.
I myself have experienced a plethora of emotions during this time… fear, anxiety, loss, and general unsettledness that seemed different than what I might usually feel. I have had that pit in my stomach that feels deep. I sat with all those emotions and realized it was grief that was visiting. I imagine I am not the only one who has experienced these emotions. I hope this is a place where you can begin to acknowledge these feelings and feel like this is a safe place for you to sit with them and feel them.
For me, I have felt tremendous suffering in realizing I am not able to see my 93-year-old mother, visit my older children and their kiddos, and see my youngest daughter. There is a separation right now. I am grieving that our frontline workers who do not have all the supplies they need to protect themselves.
Maybe you have lost a job, lost the way you used to work, feel like your workplace is not safe, had to cancel a wedding, graduation, cancel plans, lost income, or have lost a loved one. I don’t want to minimize anything here. Each of us has very different circumstances, thoughts, and feelings. We are all simultaneously grieving. We are also pre grieving. We collectively are pre grieving what we don’t know is coming in the future.
It is so important for us to learn how to grieve and to allow this grief to surface and guide us. This knowledge and understanding will help us get through this and help us show up for ourselves, our families, coworkers, and friends.
What are you feeling right now? What is the kind of grief that is coming up for you? Can you name the feeling?
Sit with these feelings and let them move through you. These too will pass. You will find acceptance and have the opportunity to reflect, reexamine to find meaning in your life.
I am Lisa Jollimois. I am a personal development coach for women who want to transform their lives. If you need more support getting through this current crisis, contact me. Or if you need support naturally maintaining your weight, rewriting your story, exploring new possibilities for an empty nest, or feeling stuck. I can help act as a guide to get your life into action.
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Mar 31, 2020 | Personal Development
Hello friends, I hope you are all well and safe during these trying times. How are you feeling right now? If you are like most of us these days I would guess you’re feeling anxiety, stress, fear, worry, concern, helpless, and like things are spiraling out beyond your control. You’re not alone here, I’ve had friends contact me needing comfort and tips on how to tame these horrible feelings.
So many of us have fears right now, the fear of losing a job, getting sick, not being able to buy food, family members getting sick, and suffering. I find myself having to coach myself regularly to catch myself from feeling any of those anxious thoughts.
Don’t beat yourself up for thinking this way. It’s normal to have your brain creating this anxious chaos in your head in times like this. We are human and our brains have this ability to perceive when a threat is near.
The problem most often is when your thoughts tell you there is fear. Most likely, there is no actual physical threat. There isn’t a lion actually chasing you, is there? The threat is in your mind. When we have these thoughts of threat your body prepares you to fight and run to getaway. Your body constricts, your heart pounds faster and your blood pressure rises.
I want to tell those of you who don’t know that I was once a dental hygienist. I have seen fear and anxiety before me in the dental chair. I’ve seen how those feelings can shatter your nerves, or completely numb you out. I’ve seen how the nervous system works and how it can protect us.
The sympathetic nervous system is the fight or flight part of our nervous system that kicks in under perceived threat or fearful circumstances. The problem here is that the sympathetic nervous system doesn’t know what is a real threat and what is imagined. The goal under these circumstances is to run from the lion chasing you or jump out of the dental chair before that dreaded tinge of pain happens.
We need to get out of the constant sympathetic nervous system many of us are feeling now and bring ourselves to our parasympathetic nervous system, a more peaceful and healthier place to be.
Many of you have been already living in a state where your sympathetic nervous system is on overdrive. Fear, fear, fear… the, “I need to get out of here state of mind.” If you live in that state of threat over long periods of time, that causes your body to produce the more of the cortisol hormone to a point of adrenal exhaustion.
It is so important to learn how to relax especially during these times of crisis. Many of us are already living in a crisis state and then we put on the stress of uncertainty with this pandemic…Our systems are screaming for help to settle down.
Being on sympathetic overdrive wreaks havoc on your bodies inhibits food absorption, lowers your immune system, exhausts you of your energy, and none of that is good right now. Now is the time for some supreme self-care. You can learn and practice relaxing even in these most difficult times.
Let’s talk more about easing difficulties in these uncertain times. I don’t want to underestimate what you all are feeling because I know it’s scary. We are all afraid. The last thing I want to do is say do this and you’ll be okay. We are all in this crisis together and it’s hard.
I’ve had my share of difficult times in my life. Times where I’ve had my thoughts ramble through my head and cause me not to sleep at night. I saw the toll my thoughts had on my health and how I was feeling like I was running on empty. I learned strategies to decompress that feeling of fright and fear and worked on accessing my parasympathetic nervous system. I’ve used some of these things to help me when the stressors of life had gotten the best of me. I am offering you some suggestions that will ease your mind and help you navigate through these times of uncertainty.
I’m not saying I don’t have any anxiety over this pandemic, but when you access the parasympathetic nervous system you’ll naturally feel more at ease. I hope you find these tips useful to lower your anxiety. Please share these with your friends and family. I hope these are to the point and easy for you because if you are like me I am tired of reading about COVID -19.
1. Limit Your Consumption Of Negative News
Fortunately, I don’t have cable tv at my house, so I am naturally limited to and what I consume for news. Spend less time overdosing on COVID -19 news and more time reading or viewing things that nourish you.
2. Accepting The Way You Feel Right Now.
Be where you are right now and don’t fight it. Be with the emotion and understand it is just energy that will move through you. Don’t be judgemental. Remember it is only the images you have in your brain that are creating the emotion. These feelings too will pass.
3. Prayerful Meditation
Spend less time worrying over your health and be mindful of the general state of health of the world. Use meditation and prayer to rest your body and empty your mind. There are many guided meditations on youtube that you can access for relaxation.
4. Being Grateful
Spend less time fixating on your perceived losses and focus on the gifts that are upon us during this time of trial. Be grateful for the privileges you have and the things you may most often take for granted. Be content where you are. There is so much around you to be grateful for you just have to look. Practice being grateful all the time. Gratitude just feels good.
5. Reaching Out To Others
Spend less time focusing on being shut-in and spend more time reaching out to others who might be lonely. We are now being offered the opportunity to work for the good of our families and neighbors This is a time to spend with family or close friends and enjoying that time you have together while using precautions recommended by the CDC.
6. Focus On What Is True
Know that this will pass. At the moment, you have the basic things that you need to get you through this. Focus on what you know is true for you. It is once you leave that place of truth you begin to panic and spiral into a place of uncertainty. Fear arises when there is uncertainty in our minds.
7. Stretching, Mild Exercise Or Being In Nature
I have adopted a stretching ritual. Every morning I stretch and every evening before bed I stretch. It is probably one of my favorite things to do. It calms me and relaxes me right before bed. I dim the lights and do my own routine to loosen the tight body parts. Do yoga, dance, take a walk in nature those all have soothing effects. Take note, anything high intensity activates the sympathetic nervous system.
8. Focus On Breathing
You may have a method that you can pull out that makes you feel better in times of stress. I like Dr. Weil’s 4-7-8 method for relaxation. It’s really easy and it seems to never fail me. I use it at night before bed. Check out this how-to video. Dr. Weil Breathing Exercises
9. Accept Contrasts In Life
Right now we are all seeing severe contrasts in our lives. Know that without these contrasts our ability to appreciate what we have in life is less. Without sadness, happiness is harder to understand, and without fear, peace is not peace. Accepting the contrasts we are seeing now will give a more appreciation for life when this too passes.
10. Use Your Time Well
You can get stuck by thinking and perseverating on “What’s going to happen? What if I lose my job?” Instead, ask yourself, “How you will use this time well? How can I improve the quality of my life right now, under these horrific circumstances?”
I hope you have found these tips useful and healing.
If we knew how to harness our minds, imagine the wonders we would be capable of. Whether you practice prayers or mantras alone, with one other, those thoughts ripple out into the fabric of life and bring about positive change.
Let’s together vow to approach this current crisis with the best frame of mind we are capable of activating at this time. Let’s focus our minds on positive healing energy for the world while we act locally as best we can.
I am Lisa Jollimois. I am a personal development coach for women who want to transform their lives. If you need more support getting through this current crisis, contact me. Or if you need support naturally maintaining your weight, rewriting your story, exploring new possibilities for an empty nest, or feeling stuck. I can help act as a guide to get your life into action.
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Feb 29, 2020 | Personal Development
“I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.” – Carl Jung
There is nothing worse than remembering those times when you were confident especially when you are feeling like you’re spiraling down and can’t seem to get it back together. You are not the only one who has had this experience. It’s more common than you think.
The other day I was having tea with a friend and she started talking about how a year ago she felt ultra-successful in her career. Now after company cutbacks, she feels like whatever shes touches turns into a disaster. She feels her confidence fading and her light getting dimmer and dimmer.
Have you ever been in that place? It feels awful and it’s a hard place to get out of once your there.
I’ve hit those rock bottom times myself and it stinks. It takes some courage and confidence to get the ball moving again to lift yourself up to see through it.
Whether you have lost a job, tried something and it didn’t work out as you had wished, had a sudden relationship change, or had a child that embarrassed the heck out of you. These unexpected changes alter our sense of being and deflate our confidence. There are so many things in life that can jolt us and make it difficult to move out of that space.
3 Things you can do to get out of that funky space.
1. Begin to take action…When you have the feeling of low confidence it can be really hard to move off the couch or out of bed for that matter. It is imperative that you get up and move. If you stay on that couch all day you’ll keep that vicious cycle of low confidence going.
Get up and move towards a desired goal. I am talking about taking baby steps here. Maybe a small goal is to make yourself a healthy lunch followed by a walk. Or perhaps it’s having the courage to look at new job opportunities. The goal is to get you moving so you no longer feel stuck. Slowly if you continue to take action steps you confidence will reemerge through your courage to take action
2. Have a positive mindset…It is so easy to have a “stinkin’ thinking” when our confidence is little. Ladies and gentlemen, that does not work. You must have a positive mindset. Be aware of the negative thoughts that float in and out of your mind. I’m talking about the…I know why I got fired, I couldn’t do the job right, I’m not smart enough, I’m getting old, I’m not good enough, I don’t fit in…you get it?
Every day I have to practice what I preach. I have to watch my triggers and things that turn my mind inside out. I’ll practice flipping my thinking. Just today after hearing my friend needed to go back to China to finish a project. I caught myself thinking, “He must not like me…”I stopped myself from thinking more unnecessary and ridiculous thoughts that are not true. The bottom line is that he has an obligation to fulfill. I stopped those crazy thoughts before they caught hold of me.
3. Make a decision. Making a decision to a desired outcome can be a huge step. When you don’t make decisions you stay stuck. I am not talking about decisions that’ll rock everyone’s world. It’s those small decisions that can build gradual confidence.
I have seen women stay in stuckness and confusion to a point where it becomes the everyday normal. It becomes so much a part of who they are as women they don’t even know they are in that state. Instead of being in the state of “I don’t know” and confusion, make a conscious decision. That conscious decision will guide you to the next conscious decision and before you know it, you will have taken steps to a more desirable place and a place of self-knowing and more confidence.
I am Lisa Jollimois. I am a personal development coach for women who want to transform their lives. Whether you need support naturally maintaining your weight, rewriting your story, exploring new possibilities for an empty nest, or feeling stuck. I can help act as a guide to get your life into action.
If this interests you or if you want to level-up your standard of life, or plan your success for 2020 email me for your FREE discovery call at lisa@lisajollimois.com or sign up at https://calendly.com/lisa-365
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Jan 11, 2020 | Uncategorized
Hey, my friends, it’s 2020! I don’t know about you but I am super excited about what this new year and new decade will bring. I love to think about where I’ll be at the end of the year, how I will grow and evolve into a better version of myself. My point is, that is we are not mindful of our intentions we will not grow and we repeat the treadmill of life.
Have you ever met people that are stuck on the treadmill of life? When you ask them about their life they say the same old same old. I like to think I’m a girl on the go who keeps evolving and growing with something different always going.
I grew up in a household where taking risks, and challenging yourself was not encouraged. Doing the expected, the path that society had paved was the way I went. Can anyone relate? If something seemed too hard, the message I learned was don’t do it or I should defer to a man to handle it. There were years where I felt this generational gap and struggled to retrain my mind and learn a new way of thinking. Have you felt that way?
Sometimes when you are in the feeling of neediness and stuckness, you may wonder what the heck is wrong with me? Why can’t I get this right? I’m not smart enough? Have you been there? You question yourself to the max and beat yourself up. Well. the reality is that none of those thoughts are true. There was never anything wrong with me and there is nothing wrong with you.
I know I was never taught how to grow in a healthy way that would allow me to shine. How about you? Many of the women I coach were not taught to live life and embrace challenges in a healthy, fun way with a growth mindset.
I saw that once I freed myself up to be the creator of my life, the one I was meant to live… my natural creativity blossomed.
Today, I am going to share with you one of the annual rituals that keep my creative juices on task and have helped me grow, kept me on track, helped me on task when things get tough, and given me a little push all year long. It’s fun, will be fascinating, and full of surprises if you set your intentions now and think December 31, 2020.
For the last few years, every January I have been selecting a word that I want to embody and own as mine over the course of the year. The principle is that you select a word that encompasses more of something you want in your life. It could be love, creativity, fun, abundance, or health. You consciously practice and become that word for the year and at the end of 2020 see the results.
I love this because it does not require purchasing anything. It is entirely free. Anyone can do this and reap the benefits. It is about being a better version of yourself, just being not doing or adding anything extra on the list to-do list. Being a better version of yourself just attracts more good.
Take a few moments to relax and think about how you would like your life to change over the next year. What are you tired of? I find that many of the women I work with know exactly what they don’t want rather than what they want. Consider, what you want to experience more of in your life? Perhaps it’s love or self-assurance. Or what do you want to become more of this year?
Write all your ideas down and choose one that you feel excited about and that feels in your body. Sometimes it feels difficult. Gather your thoughts, feelings and intended actions to choose. Claim that word as your word for the year. Use this word to shape your days. Keep it in the forefront of your brain to help you make decisions that will propel you into 2021.
This year my word is courage. I need to be the courage to move my business forward and take it to the next level even when it gets scary.
So, what is your word of the year? I would love you to share it with me. You can contact me via Facebook or Instagram.
I am Lisa Jollimois. I am a personal development coach for women who want to transform their lives. Whether you need support naturally maintaining your weight, rewriting your story, exploring new possibilities for an empty nest, or feeling stuck. I can help act as a guide to get your life into action.
If this interests you or if you want to level-up your standard of life, or plan your success for 2020 email me for your FREE discovery call at lisa@lisajollimois.com or sign up at https://calendly.com/lisa-365
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Dec 29, 2019 | Personal Development
“Life is what you celebrate. All of it. Even its end. – Joanne Harris
We’re close to wrapping up 2019 and the decade, everyone! For me, this is a time of anticipation and joy and as I think ahead for what’s coming in the new year.
This year, the day before New Year’s eve I’ll be starting a new tradition that is fun, a great distraction from technology, and a way to begin and create momentum jumping into the new year.
We’ll be clearing the dining room table, drinking some wine or some hot winter Wassail, imagining and dreaming, cutting, gluing, and using our creative juices to create amazing dream boards for 2020.
Our celebration will be a way to recognize all the joys, accomplishments, and to recognize the trials as periods of growth.
So raise your goblets or your hot mug and join in on the celebration!
I know so many of us to tend to look at the end of the year as “just another year past” with gloomy eyes. We think about the weight we haven’t lost, the things we didn’t do, the things that went wrong or how often how we still feel like we are in the same old, same old place as the previous year.
One New Year’s celebration tip is…
I am going to challenge you to say goodbye to those old tapes that play in your mind and make you feel horrible. My challenge is for you to throw those tapes out and think about how you can celebrate the good things that happened over the last year. Right now, start celebrating all the accomplishments, even if they seem like mini ones that happened over the last year.
I’ll take a moment to tell you appreciating and living a life with joy and ease every day doesn’t mean life is picture-perfect. It’s taking those foibles and points of resistance that cause us all so much suffering and transforming them into knowing how to live creatively. That is embracing all of life every day, the good times, the bad times, the moments of happiness, the craziness, and realizing it’s okay.
Honestly, if my life was all rainbows, puppies, and ice cream sundaes, I’d be downright bored. Life has a gracious way of taking care of us, we have to acknowledge the abundance around us and begin to see our unique circumstances and resistances with a new lens.
Even in those moments when the craziest things happen…like my Christmas tree falling flat on its side right as guests were walking up the front doorstep. It’s all a part of life. What a great ice breaker and a good reason to laugh!
Well, the New Year is rolling in and it’s the start of a new decade. I want you to take a moment and think about all the feel-good things that have happened over the last year. These are the things you want to be celebrating.
It is that feeling state of mind that is essential. The more you can get into that good feeling state of mind, the more chances are you can attract it. As Rumi said, “What you seek is seeking you.”
The other celebration tip is…
I want you to look at and celebrate the things that have not gone well, The regrets, the things you didn’t do, and all the perceived mistakes. Know that your learning and growing in those foibles and that it’s totally okay.
It’s so hard to look at mistakes. I have a hard time looking at my own. But, as I write them down in my journal, I see that all of my mistakes in life (and there have been plenty of them…) All have been so essential to my own personal journey and have brought me here.
Sometimes it takes a tremendous amount of courage to look at the things that have not gone well. As does it take courage to put yourself out there, fail, get up and, try try again. I will be the first to say that mistakes are how you learn, evolve, and create the life you want.
So on that note all, on New Year’s eve celebrate all the good, the not so good, the bad, and your mistakes, and regrets. Look for the gifts that are often disguised as something else. Bring forth new energy of celebration to ignite your new year with a bang and know to celebrate is always the best way to go.
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I am Lisa Jollimois. I am a personal development coach for women who want to transform their lives. Whether you need support naturally maintaining your weight, rewriting your story, exploring new possibilities for an empty nest, or feeling stuck. I can help act as a guide to get your life into action.
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Dec 14, 2019 | Healthy Eating
Hey, I’ll be the first to admit at a holiday party you’ll see me hovering over the food, eyeing everything to see what will suit my craving best. To say this bluntly, yes, I am a recovering sweet tooth.
It’s inevitable, there will be extra treats around over the holidays; it’s the most festive time of year. It is perfectly okay to have a little fun and enjoy some special things to please your palette.
Here are 3 strategies you can use to curb the urge to pile your plate or prevent you from visiting the dessert table multiple times.
1. Ask yourself how you want to feel after the gathering. Know that perhaps eating a ton of sweets or heavy food that will not agree with you is probably not the best choice. Go into the gathering with an understanding of how you want to feel during and after the party or event.
2. Choose to let the focus be the people at the gathering. This makes a huge difference. Sure, enjoy some of the treats, but don’t let it be a focal point. Try to remove yourself from the food. That might be suggesting to talk to someone in an area away from the nibbles, sitting in a cozy spot or chatting by a window. Focus on the person you are talking to; it is an opportunity to meet someone new or enjoy some good company.
3. Drink a warm drink. Often people eat for comfort. Drinking a cup of hot tea, decaf, or coffee can be the soothing thing you need to help you keep away from the spread of food. Enjoy it. It requires slow sipping. That’ll give everyone else plenty of time to try all the nibblies. 🙂
I am Lisa Jollimois. I am a personal development coach for women who want to transform their lives. Whether you need support naturally maintaining your weight, rewriting your story, exploring new possibilities for an empty nest, or feeling stuck. I can help act as a guide to get your life into action.
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Dec 2, 2019 | Lifestyle
It’s time to enjoy this cycle of nature and sacred time of rebirth, one of the four life-giving seasons on our blessed Earth.
What a fabulous morning! It is our first snow here in New Hampshire. The snow brings a level of stillness, quiet, and peace to the day. I hear the chickadees chirping as I sit here on my couch and drink one of my morning favorites, chai green tea. At this moment life feels especially wonderful.
I thought I would share some holiday tips to calm the feeling of rush and stress many of us feel during this season.
With all that said, first I’ll share something I’ll never do again…After a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner with my daughter, I stopped at a store to beat the Black Friday madness.
I was wrong.
I proceeded in with caution as warned by the yellow caution tape that lined the checkout aisles and entry.
As I was picking up a few items, I heard hollering and people fighting toward the technology department then witnessed the store police running up the main aisle to break up the commotion.
That was it. I checked out my few items and was off.
I thought to myself this is the exact opposite of how the season supposed to be celebrated.
I’ll never shop on post-Thanksgiving or Black Friday again.
I make it a daily practice to live with ease, beauty, and balance. Plain and simple the madness doesn’t meet my standard, the way I want to live. It was time for me to check-in with myself and time to level-up to avoid the holiday chaos.
If you want to cut out the stress this holiday season, consider some of these helpful holiday tips.
- Keep It Simple. Really. The key is to do less and enjoy more this season.
- Cut Out The Extras. We clutter our lives with stuff, too much of it. Do what is most important to you and your family.
- Easy Holiday Decor. Decorate your front door, your tree, and a focal point (most likely your table).
- Plan Ahead. Plan by making a list of essential things you need to do. Do this each week until the big day. This will help time from ticking away and help ease your stress. Preparing ahead can save you money as well by eliminating last-minute panic buying.
- Wrap As You Buy. I’ll admit, I’ve learned the hard way. I’ve had some late nights wrapping gifts for four kids the night before Christmas.
- Tag Your Gifts. Sticky notes can help you keep track of what’s under the wrapping.
- Ask For Help. Ask holiday guests to bring a favorite dish or dessert. Most people love flaunting their favorite holiday recipes. Or, Invite guests to help you prepare the holiday meal.
Remember, there is no hurry. The season is not about chaos. It’s the season of peace. Pace yourself. Enjoy family and friends. Show your light and love to them.
I am Lisa Jollimois, mother of four who loves supporting women 40 plus who are looking for a more fulfilling life. I work with women who are looking for more out of life, who want to uncover themselves, take the next step, rewrite their story, be more vulnerable, and learn how to live happier, healthier, confident and radiant.
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Nov 19, 2019 | Personal Development
An attitude of gratitude.
Sure, it’s that time of year, so it would make sense for me to want to start to think about gratitude…
I think an attitude of gratitude could be one of the most powerful transformational human emotions that exist.
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” – Melody Beattie
If it’s that amazing, why wait until mid-November to start being grateful?
Being grateful is a daily practice for me. I continue to work on being grateful and reaping the benefits.
Let me tell you 5 ways that gratitude has dramatically changed my life…
And how gratitude can change your life…
- I am happier.
Yes, gratitude can be a key that unlocks the door to happiness. After I started practicing gratitude I noticed contentment in my heart, a good feeling that was relaxed, at ease, calm, and overall, a happier more fulfilled me.
- I am less focused on perceived problems.
Simply stated, I started worrying less. Many of the problems I thought I had weren’t there at all. They were in my mind. I realized how easy it was to make molehills into mountains and sabotage my inner sense of peace.
- I am healthier.
Being grateful has allowed me to let go of toxic thoughts and emotions. The practice has allowed me to let go of thoughts that were creating unnecessary stress. The result, a more peaceful me. I started having more restful nights, better sleep which reduced the hormone cortisol in my body.
- I am less self-centered.
Okay, I am being brutally honest here. I can be self-centered without knowing it. I am much better now with conscious effort. I attribute this to being the baby in the family, my closest sibling is nine years older than me. The nature of gratitude is to focus on the benevolent acts of others. The practice of gratitude has helped me be grateful for others in my life and realize their unique gifts.
- I am more magnetic as a person.
An attitude of gratitude makes me feel good, feel sparkly and that’s attractive to others. I feel nicer, out-going, and social. Gratitude makes me have more natural positive happy energy. Clearly, what you give off you get back.
Being grateful is a conscious practice. It is not a quick fix, cure-all, but if you put in the effort the benefits outweigh the effort. You’ll see changes in your life that might pleasantly surprise you and lead you down a path of more health, happiness, confidence, and radiance.
I am Lisa Jollimois, mother of four who loves supporting women 40 plus who are looking for a more fulfilling life. I work with women who are looking for more out of life, who want to uncover themselves, take the next step, rewrite their story, be more vulnerable, and learn how to live happier, healthier, confident and radiant.
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