Sometimes it is really scary to feel those emotions, the loneliness, the fear, the confusion. When these emotions surface it is good to know that all of what you are feeling doesn’t define who you are as a human being. These emotions are just part of the human experience of energy moving through you.
Energy moves, so this too will pass. I encourage you to be with the emotion and let it flow through you. It’s all okay, Emotions are not bad. They feel worse when we don’t acknowledge them. If you have resistance to them and pretend they are not there, that causes us the most pain.
What are you feeling today? How was your day? Allow those feelings to emerge.
Be a kind witness to your emotions and invite them into your life. Fighting them or pretending they are not present makes it hard. There is no hurry. Give yourself time to be with yourself and the emotion. Choose to feel the emotion. Remember, feelings are created by thoughts not external circumstances.
What creates our suffering?
Our thinking creates our suffering. It is easy to believe that we feel the way we do because of the circumstances in the world. For instance, if my children all lived close to me I would have the most fabulous Mother’s Day or if my children would behave differently I would feel better. No, my friends, that is not the way it works. Sometimes we throw ourselves into the suffering arena unnecessarily because of our thinking.
Some people believe if COVID -19 were to go away we would all feel better, not true. We would still all have to learn how to handle our feelings around whatever might rock our boat the next. Life is meant to be a series of contrasts and challenges. During these challenging times, our minds like to play games with us because we most often so desperately want to feel better. So, we resort to blaming the world as the cause of our problems. That is why we can find ourselves trying to control situations and micromanage things. Our thoughts are always creating how we feel. Your thoughts are the one thing you can control. It is a practice.
I have an acquaintance who loves to live in drama. The sad thing is that she is so accustomed to living this way she doesn’t even see the mental frenzy she creates in her world. She comes to mind because I want to bring to your attention the fact that many of us live in a state of being and that our stories are not always true.
Much like this acquaintance many of us catastrophize, we create a situation that we think is true, but in reality, it is not. It is important to understand the actual facts around a given situation have no resistance or force against us. The circumstance that we have is that there is a virus called COVID -19. This is just a circumstance that is zone neutral. It is our thinking that creates the thoughts, that produce the emotions and the fear that we have around this virus.
It is important to note that we can’t control any given circumstance, but we can control our thoughts around the situation. We can choose how we want to feel.
What are some of the circumstances that are stressing you? What are your thoughts around those circumstances?
You can’t change circumstances, but you can choose the thoughts you think about the circumstances. Try to think thoughts that are not so painful. Choose more empowering thoughts little by little to change the story you hear.
Many of the stories we tell ourselves can evoke strong emotion. What are some of the stories you are telling yourself?
Lately I have been hearing a lot of stories about this virus. The reality is the virus is not so scary. There have been many viruses in the world. It is our thoughts and stories about the virus that have caused us to be so fearful. I am not underestimating the impact this virus has had on the world or the pain that some of you have suffered by having a loved one fall ill. I want to bring to your attention the choice you have during this time and the power you have is in your mind. By all means, I am not saying don’t be cautious.
Ask yourself. Does it serve you to be so fearful? Is that fear disabling you?
If you start taking a look at your thoughts you will begin to see some thoughts are waiting to be changed to produce better feelings and productive actions. You will begin to feel better and show up in ways that are more in line with your true self. It’s so easy especially now when circumstances are more traumatic than normal to get caught up in looping around and around in our thoughts. If you find yourself in this place, try to shift your thought pattern slightly. Because your thoughts create your feelings, which create your actions, which drive your outcome. If you do this you’ll find you give yourself a little bit of relief.
It is the small everyday steps that eventually lead to big changes. What if you started to change one thought, what would that do for you?
I like to refer to this as a kind of “cleaning of the mind”. And, what perfect time to check into seeing what our minds are thinking. Today, I spent some of that quiet time reorganizing closets, thinking about those little things that are important to me, and things that I treasure.
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I am Lisa Jollimois. I am a personal development coach for women who want to transform their lives. If you need more support getting through this current crisis, contact me. Or if you need support naturally maintaining your weight, rewriting your story, exploring new possibilities for an empty nest, or feeling stuck. I can help act as a guide to get your life into action.
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