When Your Confidence Fades… 3 Tips To Get It Back #19
“I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.” – Carl Jung
There is nothing worse than remembering those times when you were confident especially when you are feeling like you’re spiraling down and can’t seem to get it back together. You are not the only one who has had this experience. It’s more common than you think.
The other day I was having tea with a friend and she started talking about how a year ago she felt ultra-successful in her career. Now after company cutbacks, she feels like whatever shes touches turns into a disaster. She feels her confidence fading and her light getting dimmer and dimmer.
Have you ever been in that place? It feels awful and it’s a hard place to get out of once your there.
I’ve hit those rock bottom times myself and it stinks. It takes some courage and confidence to get the ball moving again to lift yourself up to see through it.
Whether you have lost a job, tried something and it didn’t work out as you had wished, had a sudden relationship change, or had a child that embarrassed the heck out of you. These unexpected changes alter our sense of being and deflate our confidence. There are so many things in life that can jolt us and make it difficult to move out of that space.
3 Things you can do to get out of that funky space.
1. Begin to take action…When you have the feeling of low confidence it can be really hard to move off the couch or out of bed for that matter. It is imperative that you get up and move. If you stay on that couch all day you’ll keep that vicious cycle of low confidence going.
Get up and move towards a desired goal. I am talking about taking baby steps here. Maybe a small goal is to make yourself a healthy lunch followed by a walk. Or perhaps it’s having the courage to look at new job opportunities. The goal is to get you moving so you no longer feel stuck. Slowly if you continue to take action steps you confidence will reemerge through your courage to take action
2. Have a positive mindset…It is so easy to have a “stinkin’ thinking” when our confidence is little. Ladies and gentlemen, that does not work. You must have a positive mindset. Be aware of the negative thoughts that float in and out of your mind. I’m talking about the…I know why I got fired, I couldn’t do the job right, I’m not smart enough, I’m getting old, I’m not good enough, I don’t fit in…you get it?
Every day I have to practice what I preach. I have to watch my triggers and things that turn my mind inside out. I’ll practice flipping my thinking. Just today after hearing my friend needed to go back to China to finish a project. I caught myself thinking, “He must not like me…”I stopped myself from thinking more unnecessary and ridiculous thoughts that are not true. The bottom line is that he has an obligation to fulfill. I stopped those crazy thoughts before they caught hold of me.
3. Make a decision. Making a decision to a desired outcome can be a huge step. When you don’t make decisions you stay stuck. I am not talking about decisions that’ll rock everyone’s world. It’s those small decisions that can build gradual confidence.
I have seen women stay in stuckness and confusion to a point where it becomes the everyday normal. It becomes so much a part of who they are as women they don’t even know they are in that state. Instead of being in the state of “I don’t know” and confusion, make a conscious decision. That conscious decision will guide you to the next conscious decision and before you know it, you will have taken steps to a more desirable place and a place of self-knowing and more confidence.
I am Lisa Jollimois. I am a personal development coach for women who want to transform their lives. Whether you need support naturally maintaining your weight, rewriting your story, exploring new possibilities for an empty nest, or feeling stuck. I can help act as a guide to get your life into action.
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